perhaps I should begin write an advice column . The bar to entry ca n’t be that high .
This particular one on mushroom foragingwas uproariously bad :
Dear Amy : I have a group of three friends ( we ’re all male ) with whom I enjoy one overnight each calendar month at a cabin in the woods .
We take turns cooking . of late two of the guys made a spaghetti dinner party for us .
The next morning they tell us that they had include mushroom in the sauce that they had found behind the woodpile .
I was horrified . I have a degree in biology and taught environmental skill for over 30 years — neither of these guys has experience with mycology or taxonomy of kingdom Fungi — nor could they even name the species of mushrooms that were used . When I expressed my dismay , they were justificative ( “ My wife said they were okay ! ” ) and eventually twist to taunt .
At the next overnight , I questioned what ingredients were included in the meal . Realizing the ridiculousness of this endeavor to be safe and wish to annul further derision , I began to take my own food under the resolve that I prefer to eat up later in the evening than they do .
Amy , they are still wee-wee jokes about it and have never shown any contriteness , much less offered an apology .
Two head : Was my reaction baseless ( I ca n’t reckon it was ) , and do you have a suggestion for resolving this through communicating ?
— keep off Amanita
stave off : Your response was not unfounded , but your overreaction is .
Your friends made a potentially dangerous pick ; as it turn out , everyone got lucky and no one fix sick . You transmit your educated and logical concern , and you know your friends hear you because they resorted to taunting you for taking your position .
I trust that what you describe as “ taunting ” was a milder comb-out .
You for sure have the right to bring your own nutrient to these gathering , but you are n’t being honest about your rationality ( and “ feed later ” does n’t inevitably make sense ) . And — every time you do this , you vivify the original issue , which is that you do n’t bank your friends to extend a safely prepared meal .
In my opinion , you should make a choice to entrust your friends ’ solid food homework , but this would require you to relax about an issue you plain take extremely gravely .
You might turn over this issuing on its side if you more or less dove into the heart of it . Have some T - shirts made for the group : “ Fun Guys Forage Fungi . ”
With advice like that from theJeff Bezos BlogWashington Post , everyone ’s gon na die in dark …
This input below the post sums it up :
“ Dear Amy ,
